tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-637299678197896762.post6497975709767700143..comments2023-09-24T09:08:50.636-07:00Comments on Finding What I Am Looking For: Resentmentpippasmumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07386184818117314750noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-637299678197896762.post-19103762141860223622010-06-06T21:03:58.245-07:002010-06-06T21:03:58.245-07:00I believe you have every right to feel that way! ...I believe you have every right to feel that way! I think you probably acted better than I would in the same situation (ok, honestly, I'd have been sobbing, then would have everyone asking me 'what's wrong' to which I'd probably say 'nothing'). I hope things get better. I really do. I'm so glad you have J! You need more people like her around during this time!Sabhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06366504500666420418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-637299678197896762.post-64555243279941418522010-06-02T20:31:16.275-07:002010-06-02T20:31:16.275-07:00Oh, UG! How TOTALLY frustrating!!! No, you are r...Oh, UG! How TOTALLY frustrating!!! No, you are right - sometimes the "I'll help" is completely NO HELP and sometimes it's even extra work for you! Naturally you'll start to feel resentful, and then (if you're anything like me) guilty for feeling resentful since they're trying to "help." <br /><br />*Whew* Big breath out! :) I've found trying to give smallish, specific tasks sometimes helps them help me. Say, to wash the dishes, or fold this basket of clothes (won't be how I would, but doesn't matter!) or throw in a load of laundry or run to the grocery store with this list or vacuum or what have you. Nothing that involves putting stuff away (unless they really know your house well)! <br /><br />Good luck!Ms. Huis Herselfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10965333243525156916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-637299678197896762.post-68413727516368104032010-06-02T06:21:06.582-07:002010-06-02T06:21:06.582-07:00Oh, I'm glad to hear you get to keep daycare f...Oh, I'm glad to hear you get to keep daycare for Pk for now while you get ready and a bit for her later - two days a week will be lovely for you, too, a little breathing room. <br /><br />Meanwhile, Baby? STAY PUT! Heh. I always hear people getting eager to be done being pregnant, ut I've never been eager for that, because I know that it's when things start to get truly hairy! Still, you will get through those first few months, and as I was promised, so I promise you - it is easier the second time. Things don't seem quite as life-and-death, and your bit of experience makes it seem way more survivable.kittenpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05215443551546036909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-637299678197896762.post-85468328052717055232010-06-01T20:47:50.539-07:002010-06-01T20:47:50.539-07:00You are too good!!! I know that you would be here...You are too good!!! I know that you would be here in a heartbeat but I will be o.k., really. I just need a break and funny thing is, having mom gone for a few days will probably be just the ticket to getting my head back on right. Just say a little prayer for me that baby holds off another week or so - I talked to mom tonight and now she has a bad case of stomach flu - let's hope that is long gone before baby arrives, that is a complication that I don't need to I think that baby staying where he is for now would be the best thing.<br />In terms of daycare, Pk is going to stay in daycare full-time until the end of June since I get paid full salary until then and after that, she will go two days each week since that is what I have to do to keep her spot. I think it will be really good for her anyway since, with the upset to her routine that a new baby will bring, having J's house and her friends there will give her some stability until we can establish our "new normal" here. <br />Thanks for the encouragement!!!!pippasmumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07386184818117314750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-637299678197896762.post-4825424998398475162010-06-01T19:49:41.962-07:002010-06-01T19:49:41.962-07:00Oooh, I hear you, and no, it's not whining, it...Oooh, I hear you, and no, it's not whining, it's frustration over totally frustrating circumstances! <br /><br />This is why I don't invite my mother to my house often - her offers to, say, empty my dishwasher are no help when I then have to spend the whole time doing it WITH her since she doesn't know where things go anyhow and then there are two bodies in one space and it's just more annoying than it is helpful. <br /><br />and Mrpie, who after we renovated the third floor through my entire pregnancy, finally asked me in my last week if I should be moving those boxes? Say WHAT? <br /><br />The only thing I can give you if you are looking for anything past venting (which is usually all I want in your case because DANG it's frustrating and feels good to get it out!) is that it is at least in their favour that they are all just clueless, not malicious. Not that that makes them less irritating... <br /><br />and that yes, i SO wish at these times that I was close so I could just have you over for some tea and chocolate or the old standby Haagen Dazs and let you have a good solid rant until we got silly and started laughing, storm over. And, of course, so I could take Pk off your hands a bit and let you have some badly-needed time. I do have this weekend off, as does Mrpie, but I'm not sure it does you much help to drop her off with us when we are such a trip away. Instead, I could come up on the bus on Mon or Fri, if you would like, but you may just as much want the time to yourself, if I'm hearing you right! <br /><br />Try to find a little moment, a little solace, and know that soon, the madness will be over and you will settle into a routine with your babe. Will you be able to send Pk to at least part-time daycare, so you have a bit of time to just enjoy and relax as much as babies allow? it can be really so nice to just have that time to *be* together. I know it will be here sooner than you can imagine. <br /><br />virtual hugs and pots of tea to you, sweetie.kittenpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05215443551546036909noreply@blogger.com